Are there any home for the aged ones (=old-age home/nursing home for the elderly) in Pakistan?

Thanks Zainab. It is all about needs and intentions. Islam puts so much emphasis on taking care of and obeying one's parents. I'd simply not like any parent to feel abandonned.

Yeah, unfortunately it does happen in our society and sad part is govt is not doing anything regarding this, and just think, if there are not such sorta place for homeless people, where wud they go? the guys wud get into wrong hands probably and girls wud go to the "red lite" areas. So everything has it's own worth.

And why would you want to make one? What are advantages and disadvantages of having one? :)

Ummmm... well for me biggest advantage is my personal satisfaction... i wud love to serve the parents who are taken forgt=ranted by their children (in most of the cases) when they reach their old age....!!

hmm...that is true, but then again, I was thinking what those parents would prefer: to live with their children (no matter how they are treated by them) or to live in an old-age home? Who can guarantee them that they will be treated nicely in those homes? And wouldn't having the possibility to bring parents in an old-age home tempt children to use that option more often?

in most of the case children by themself bring their parents to the old-age homes.... :( den in such cases what the parents should expect yar... they do everything for their children throughout their life and at the end of the day what they get??? unexplainable... ! children thinks they are doing too good, letting their parents sit in the car...telling them we have surprise for you...then taking them to old age home...nd letting them knw u'll now live here...u'll get this nd this nd this facility here... :( crap! c'mon parents dnt need to be facilated yar, their best facilation comes frm the love provided by their children,...!

okay, if it is done that way - then 'no comment on it', but if they had the option, I wonder if they'd rather bear 'bad treatment' by their loved ones or prefer living in those homes? Since, as you said - parents want love from their children and some might ask for nothing than to be able to see their children and not get forgotten by them. I feel that opening such homes could make children be more reckless towards their duties. At the same time, there is this possibility that through these homes children come closer to their parents and treat them in a better way?

well there are parents who dnt have children, or they lost them or they are abroad and never been home since years.. yar unfortunately,there are such cases in real life that we can only think of... and old age homes are basically meant to serve those parents ...or like a single who lost a spouse nd no children.. you getting ma point...!! ??

yup. MashaAllah, nice thoughts, Faiq. May we all be good towards our parents (and everyone else) and help those who have been abandoned. Ameen. If you ever start with this mission, please do inform us and all the best! :)
P.S. thx for sharing your views!

Thanks Sumi... :)
Aameeenn!!
InshAllah i'll when i'll be able to do so... :)

Thx for sharing your vew, Hasan. This has been my concern as well. When I first heard of old-age homes in Pakistan, it did schock me. I fear that people could misuse this option - not only in terms of neglecting their parents and their duties towards them by simply paying the costs and distancing themselves from their parents (perhaps once and for all), but also in terms of promoting these homes and making money out of it and the social consequences it could have.
I have been trying to figure out what is worse for parents: to be treated badly by their own kids or by strangers (as I do feel that it is not necessary that the care-takers will be nice all the time)?
Looking at the trend that youngsters prefer going abroad for jobs/education and many parents even encourange them to do so, who will take care of these parents? Then again, I think of those parents, who do not wish to be dependant on their children and would prefer living in old-age homes than living with their children and constantly been dictated or looked at as burden. Shouldn't old-age homes be an option for those who do not have any human to look after them (when they fall sick, etc.)? Since old-age homes also give a community-like feeling, wouldn't the elderly people feel less isolated? I have yet not been able to make a clear opinion of whether I support this idea or not...

:) thanks Munhail Murrieum. I'm simply collecting opinions. Those, who realize the sacrifices their parents made for them, might never wish to leave their parents alone or mistreat them. However, what about those (even if few), who fail to see all this? Shall we ignore them?

No, we can of course ignore them. What we can do is that, we can try to convince them and make them realize the importance of it. If they still think that they have other priorities in life, so all we can do is to make the old people feel happy in any possible way. Like, if old home is the only option, then we can make them as comfortable as possible. And not only comfortable, but also create a caring environment as well. Old homes should have latest medical facilities along with other recreational activities, so that our old people do not feel ignored, and get so busy/happy that they start enjoying their stay there.

It shall be the last option. Exactly. And yes, this is how I picture an old-age home too :)

:)

Thank you for answering the main question. Wish you had something to say about the sub-questions as well.

There is one thing I have been always proud of in our culture and that is the way we treat our parents and how we do not like to abandon them in their old age. I had no clue that 'old-age houses' exist in Pakistan until I once watched a Pakistani TV show. Certainly, their existence and their popularity will also reflect the way our society/culture is changing and how (for instance) values are being lost, which is very saddening.

Hmm, this makes me ask: Those who consider such houses for their parents and want to 'get rid' of them (oh Allah make us all aware of our duties towards our parents and be kind towards them, Ameen), what do you think how they treat their parents in general? Could it be that their parents feel that they are better off in those houses rather than being constantly reminded of what burden they are?

for that, we should have laws to protect the rights of elderly parents and effective law enforcement agencies to have them reported and executed. And it should be discouraged morally and there should be programs backed by government and NGO's to highlight this issue and keep people vocal and concerned about it. Television programs like drama, movies to get the message emotionally through the brains of such people.

But yet again, it falls in black hole, who will bring such enforcement agencies, take the step and when!